Should ex lovers be friends? What differentiates the couples who remain friends from those who don't?
Deciding to be friends with an ex lover is a choice that should be made by people who are able to honesty connect with true feelings about current intentions and future desires, without using denial as a tool to sell current status to others.
Your current relationship is sensitive to the silent hints and nonverbal clues that let people know someone may have feelings for an ex. Immature lovers will argue that they should be allowed to be friends with an ex, exhibiting defensiveness in response to not being trusted. Those accused act outraged at not being believed capable of keeping things platonic with an ex.
But if you secretly have longing for your ex, it will show. Whether or not it becomes a self fulfilling prophesy that follows accusations... and brings you into the passionate arms of your ex lover... that is the game you choose to play when you enjoy temptation under the guise of casual friendship. Are you fundamentally capable of being honest and mature? Or are you just enjoying a naive thrill to feel important, or resolve past issues, at the expense of another?
So what makes some ex lovers different? Why are some able to be friends?
1.Believe it or not, sometimes it is easiest to become friends with an ex-lover who was once your enemy. Two people who come to mutual understanding that they are a volatile mix are often able to enjoy interpersonal relationships
2.When an ex becomes part of the family, his role may continue. As family dynamics evolve, some ex lovers become permanent in the extended family.
how about you? what is your point of view regarding this matter?
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